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Child Self Esteem
It is important to encourage self esteem, which allows a child to feel accepted, loved, important, and in control. When a child has self esteem, he feels loved and capable of accomplishing anything. A child who has been encouraged and has a high level of self esteem will be able to tolerate his frustrations well, be proud of himself for what he has accomplished, and will be able to assume the responsibilities he is required to have in life. He will not be afraid to try new things and show his emotions.
It is a very wise parent who encourages a child to build high self esteem by following these five tips.
Be a positive role model – A child observes the actions and interactions of adults, especially parents, and learns from birth how to socialize with other people from these observations. Parents should understand that everything they do impacts the self esteem of their children. What a child witnesses as he grows up should be a positive experience, allowing him to feel loved and enabling him to build his self esteem.
Connect with your child – If a child is to have positive self esteem, he needs to feel as if he is a part of a close family, where he can share his feelings and where he can feel love and warmth from whom he feels closest. Not only does he need to interact with his parents in a positive way, he also needs to find a connection with other family members, such as grandparents, siblings, aunts, and uncles. Friends, clergy, and teachers are some of the other people he should feel a connection with. He should be made to feel proud of his heritage and where his people originated. These connections and relationships develop a healthy self esteem in a child.
Give your child specific praise – A child needs to hear specific praise for a job well done, not just a generic “you did well” or “good job”. It’s important that a parent pick out a specific praise for the child. This could be something like “thank you for picking up your socks. Your room looks great now” or maybe “you look so pretty when you style your hair that way”. Such specific comments show a child that there was something that they did well and should be proud of. Generic praise seems to make children feel as if parents are just throwing an off-hand comment and maybe do not really mean what they are saying. If a parent gives specific praise, it will raise a child’s self esteem.
Support your child’s uniqueness – A child needs to have experiences where they can be different, yet still be accepted. Respect from a parent for whatever a child excels in will encourage high self esteem in a child. A child needs to use his imagination and be creative. He needs to have experiences where he can have activities to reach his potential and build confidence. Parents should understand that the child is not always going to follow the path that was expected and should allow their child to be unique. Sometimes this is hard for the parent to understand because the parent wants to try to keep the child from taking a risk of not being accepted by friends or family for his differences. But, allowing this behavior is essential for positive self esteem. Parents should support the creative activities of the child when no one else does.
Allow your child a sense of control – Children need to understand that some things are out of their control, but they also need to feel as if they do have control over some aspects of their lives. A child should have to opportunity to make some decisions about how and where is life is going. He should be encouraged to take changes and be accountable for the choices he makes. He needs to find out what is required to get what he wants and be able to deal with the stress and pressure that comes with responsibilities he has taken on. He should be allowed to solve any problems that he feels he can, without interference from parents. This power, however, should be age appropriate so that the child does not feel overwhelmed and anxious with too much responsibility being put on him. If a child gets too much power in too early of an age, it could cause problems with discipline and positive self esteem.